But, many women have big problems with “being yourself”. Even though, you do not have to learn it at all, you just have to allow it. It is already inside of you, you just have to show it to the outside.
The fear of hurting or disappointing someone, the fear of attracting unnecessary attention or making a fool of yourself keeps you from being yourself.
So, we have 10 tips for you on how to accept your uniqueness and always be yourself!
1. Find out who You are
Ask yourself the following questions and think carefully about them:
What are you like when you are alone?
How do you behave with certain people? Why is that and can you be yourself with them?
How do you behave in different places and why do you behave like this?
Were you calm or loud, open or closed before you were brought up.. or did you adapt?
Answer these questions for yourself and think about them, ideally even by writing them down. That way you will take big steps towards being your truly unique self.
2. Embrace your Uniqueness
“Uniqueness is what makes you the most beautiful.” -Lea Michele
Each and everyone of us have their own little quirks. But, we do not have to be ashamed of that, because it is precisely these quirks that make us very special.
Do not only accept your Uniqueness but, be proud of it, enjoy it, celebrate it and embrace it every day!
Because your Uniqueness is, what truly makes you beautiful!
3. Do not try to please everyone
Of course there is nothing wrong with making your friends and family happy.
But, try to be careful not to do only things that they want. Set limits for yourself and do something you want every now and then.
And do not even start with pleasing people you do not even know.. Of course, always be kind but do not carry it too far and think of yourself as well.
4. Do not compare yourself to others and be confident
Do you doubt yourself from time to time? This happens quickly when you compare yourself to others.
Stop comparing yourself to others for two reasons. First off, many look happy on the outside and seem to have a great life, but they completely disguise themselves and are acting a role they want to portray (especially on social media).
“The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else's highlight reel.” -Steven Furtick
But maybe your successful boss wanted to be a rock star or the perfect mother next door wanted to make a career. Behind-the-scenes, everyone has their own struggles and problems. They seem happy, but in reality, they are not happy at all.
Second off, you and everyone else are so unique it does not even make sense to compare to each other. The only one you should ever compare yourself to is the person you were yesterday. Try to be better everyday. What better means is up to you, as you should always be your unique self.
You will live a happy and fulfilling life by living it exactly as you want it to be, from the bottom of your heart. So, be confident in what you do and do not compare yourself to others.
5. Do not worry about what others think of you
It is completely normal that every now and then you might think "what is he or she thinking about me right now?".
But do not let yourself go through life with these thoughts all the time. Such thoughts should never dominate you and influence your decisions!
Do what you want and say what you think without taking into account what others might think of you. So that you can become the person you truly aspire to be.
6. Let yourself feel your emotions
Do not push your emotions away, do not ignore them, and most importantly, do not try to change them. It is difficult, but they are a part of us that we should not reject. By not allowing your emotions you reject to be yourself.
This does not mean that you should sink and suffer in your negative emotions - it means to perceive and accept these emotions as part of us.
It is scientifically proven that once you learn to accept your emotions as part of yourself, you will be happier and more emotionally stable.
You will also learn to understand yourself - why you react with certain emotions.
When you get to that point, you can always be honest with yourself and, above all, always be yourself.
From that point on, nothing can stop you and you can do anything!
7. Accept change
“Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” -Marilyn Monroe
Do not focus too much on the past and above all do not regret it.
Your entire past - all your decisions and experiences - make you who you are today.
Failure has the most potential for growth. Reflect on and learn from your bad decisions and experiences.
Forgive yourself for your failures and rather be thankful for them, as you learn the most while and after failing.
And especially from your biggest failures, you can draw bigger picture conclusions:
What values and views do I want to represent? Who do I want to spend time with? What activities do I want to pursue? ..Break away from your old values, friends and activities (only if necessary of course).
Accept this change and become a better version of yourself.
8. Express your Uniqueness
Find a way to develop freely and express your uniqueness. Of course it can be in more than one way.
Have you always wanted to blog about your thoughts and emotions? Do you want to photograph landscapes and post it on Instagram? Or learn to play the guitar?
No matter what it is - start now and see how it unfolds. If you like it, great! And if do not, try something new.
You can also express yourself through fashion and jewelry. With colors and patterns you can express yourself well through clothing.
But, especially with jewelry you can express your uniqueness perfectly in a symbolic way. With our Mesh Bracelet and our Mesh Charms you can put together your very own unique piece of jewelry. It is unbelievably unique, just like you are! And it symbolizes your individuality like no other piece of jewelry! It is also an absolute eye-catcher because it is simply beautiful.
Imagine yourself in the following situation: You are at Starbucks and order a coffee. You grab the coffee with your hand and your beautiful Mesh Bracelet comes to light. Both, the cashier and the woman at the exit take a look at the bracelet. The first look happened because of the beauty of the bracelet, but after a few moments the personality - the unique symbolic meaning - of the bracelet captivated both of them. They cannot avert their thoughtful gaze until they realize they are staring. The two catch each other's eyes and pretend that nothing happened. But hours later they think about the symbolic meaning. They have recognized the unique meaning of the bracelet and try to understand it. You have expressed your uniqueness with your unique and individual bracelet and thus left a special and lasting impression.
9. Find your calling
“The meaning of life is to give life meaning.” -Viktor E. Frankl
Or rather, callings. As it can be more than one.
Do you want to pursue a career and if so, in which area? Would you like to start a family soon or would you prefer to travel the world first? Do you want to do yoga, write a book or both?
There are countless questions you could ask yourself - but the most important thing is that you are honest with yourself when answering these questions. Try as hard as you can to be truthful and see what you really like.
Do not follow the mainstream and do yoga just because it is popular right now. If you really like it, then go for it! And even if it is simply the community in the yoga group who always make you happy, go for it! But, do not do it just because it is popular right now and you want to be part of the trend.
The most important thing is that you honestly judge for yourself whether you enjoy something or not. Find out what you truly enjoy and find your passion.
That way you give meaning to your life, be yourself and become incredibly happy!
10. Become yourself, step by step (& enjoy the process)
It is difficult to implement all these tips from one day to another. Therefore, try to introduce it step by step into your everyday life and do not forget to enjoy the process.
The first tip is not in the first place without a reason. It is best to start dealing with yourself first. Take your time with that. This can take weeks and months, but it is worth it!
If you have implemented the first tip, all the following will be easier for you.
It is also very important that you enjoy the process. Tips 8 and 9 in particular can be a lot of fun. If you implement these tips to your life, you can be very proud.
You will live happier and more fulfilled, so start now and be yourself!